i don’t think i’ve written anything about my new job, which is strange, considering the fact that for the past two years or so, i’ve blogged my way through prerequisites, applying for nursing schools, and going to nursing school. i then briefly blogged about studying for boards and being in india. there was a “hello, i’m back from india and weird” and though my intentions were to blog more frequently, i then kind of dropped off of the blogging universe when i began juggling two new jobs, new friends, new roommates, and lots of yoga to decompress from it all. life is maybe beginning to slow down just a bit… enough for me to think about fulfilling my new years resolution to be more bloggy, so here is the update you have all been (or have not necessarily been) waiting for.
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i’m an oncology/neurology nurse.
((my second job is a midwife assistant- the greatest! but more on that another time))
back to oncology:
the first question people ask me…. actually, it’s not technically a question, but more of an assumptive statement:
typical:
“OMIGOD. CANCER!!!!? That must be the most depressing job EVER!”
it is very sad, but very, very fulfilling.
equally deserving of the assumptive statement:
“OMIGOD. ….That must be the most depressing job EVER!!!”
…should be the fact that my unit also treats neuro patients,
if you’re wondering what that entails; think: “when something goes wrong with your spine or brain, to include strokes and seizures.”
last week, i worked mon, tue, and wed. i cried on monday, and then on wednesday. twice. i want you to know i’m absolutely not miserable in my job. i don’t get to tend to laboring moms and hold new born babies during my shift which is what i had hoped for, instead my patients are incredibly sick and often scared. like i’ve said, i cry. but working with my patients it is the most fulfilling work i can imagine doing at this juncture of my life. i am inclined to believe that things happen at just the time they are supposed to, and we can learn great lessons from them.
so here i am, learning all that i can learn, and trying to love my patients because of, and in spite of the fact that they break my heart.
in case you were wondering,
this is how a patient breaks your heart.
monday, my patient could not open his mustard package. he sat in his room alone and and pushed his call button to ask for me. because it was monday afternoon, i was of course busy so he had to wait for me to arrive. when i popped in to check on him, he asked me to open his mustard packet so he could eat his lunch. he was visibly embarrassed and uncomfortable with his request, and it struck me as incredibly sad. sad that i had been busy, sad that he didn’t have anyone visiting him that day, sad that his hands didn’t work well enough to open packages of mustard. my heart felt full and heavy, and i loved him a lot. is that weird? maybe so, but evidently, it is how i’m wired.
i love being a nurse. there is a lot one could say about it, and i already have about a million and half stories. i guess i just don’t share because i assume that sad stories are uninteresting.
but maybe that’s not true
because even though work can be sad, there is something redemptive and beautiful about the process of vulnerability, fear, compassion, love, and tears.
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some days, i cry over mustard packets.
but truly friends, i’m okay.